This is IVF... Medical Errors Made Me Infertile & Paralyzed My Surrogate - Monica Bivas

This is IVF… Medical Errors Made Me Infertile & Paralyzed My Surrogate

Nov 30, 2021 | This is IVF...

Words by Ajima Ogbole | @ajourney_of_hope 

In 2017 I had a myomectomy (the surgical removal of fibroids from the uterus), and the doctor mistakenly amputated my cervix, thereby rendering me infertile.

In all the turbulence, the enormity of the situation never quite dawned on me until a professor of gynecology I was referred to told me my best and safest option to motherhood was surrogacy.

My husband and I went on to seek second opinions and advice from the best doctors at home and abroad. Alas, every Doctor we consulted told us the same thing as the first professor. We were told that it was not possible to recreate a cervix. But we did not relent until we got a professor who offered reconstructive surgery, explaining that the chances of success were between 20-30%. In our desperation, we accepted the offer, believing it was better than not trying at all.

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After three unsuccessful surgeries, I was broken – enraged at the Doctor who made the mistake; he took a vital part of me, one meant to biologically usher me into motherhood. At that moment after the fourth surgery, I became acutely aware of my reality, and then it came to me: it was over. I am never going to get pregnant and have a baby by myself. More sadly, my sister-in-law (Susan), who stepped in to be my surrogate in 2020, is now paralyzed after delivering our baby in the same hospital that amputated my cervix.

While my case has been rightfully accepted as a medical error, it has remained unsettled for four years now by a deliberate dragging of the matter by the Insurance of the hospital @Ethias and we are currently in court.

After three unsuccessful surgeries, I was broken – enraged at the Doctor who made the mistake; he took a vital part of me, one meant to biologically usher me into motherhood. At that moment after the fourth surgery, I became acutely aware of my reality, and then it came to me: it was over. I am never going to get pregnant and have a baby by myself. More sadly, my sister-in-law (Susan), who stepped in to be my surrogate in 2020, is now paralyzed after delivering our baby in the same hospital that amputated my cervix.

While my case has been rightfully accepted as a medical error, it has remained unsettled for four years now by a deliberate dragging of the matter by the Insurance of the hospital @Ethias and we are currently in court.

 

For my sister-in-law, the hospital isn’t taking responsibility. Their insurance isn’t taking responsibility and called it a “Tragic Personal Injury”. She walked into that hospital to have the baby and left in a wheelchair. How is this a personal injury? To date, we haven’t seen the medical evaluation of the anesthesiologist they sent. Through their insurance Ethias, the Hospital first sent an orthopedic to review a neurological and anaesthesiologist medical problem.

My sister-in-law’s action is an act of love and selflessness, and she does not deserve to be in the position she is in. More so, as those responsible seem to show they can act in whatever way they wish without an equal consequence.

Our only desire is for my sister-in-law to find the best possible care she deserves to further her chances of recovery, and the hospital that is responsible for her condition own up and take responsibility!

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