Yes!!! Infertility suck! And big time! It makes you rant, curse, cry, scream, anxious, depress and takes out all your energy to the point where you feel lost and hopeless. And to women that already have children but still want another child and suffer from second infertility, the struggle and emotional distress is the same.
You keep waiting for that miracle baby, forgetting that you yourself are a miracle. You forget about the blessings and the things you have, and instead you look at what you don't have. Because you let this feeling of frustration consume you. The only thing you think about, you talk about and dream about is being a mother.
That word - "mother", "baby", "pregnant"
- sends a chill down your spine and whole body. You would do anything for that word to be a part of you in reality. I've been there.
One time I came across a quote that said: "Motherhood is more than bearing children, though it is certainly that. It is the essence of who we are as women. It defines our very identity, our divine stature and nature, and the unique traits G-d and the Universe gave us".
We, women with fertility issues, must find ways to mother. If it is getting difficult to become one and get pregnant, let's be motherly figure to those around us.
There is so many things that moms do for their children, so why not do that for someone else, while G-d and the Universe bring us our rainbow baby?
A mother is a leader, a shoulder to lean on, a teacher, a caregiver and a friend. If we are any of those things, then WE ARE MOTHERS!
Each of our stories is different. There may be some women that become mothers naturally, some with assisted medication, some with medical procedures, and some through adoption egg donation and surrogacy.
However, each one, child bearing or not, can be motherly figure to those around her through the love she shows them.
That's why I gather 14 fertility experts and coaches around the world, as I host "Infertility & Motherhood: How to allow ourselves to live the best life we can by choice, even if we don’t have our Rainbow Baby yet".